“Hi Ruchira. How are you doing?”
The message popped up on my Facebook Chat
window from – wait was I seeing things? NOPE! It was her alright! Kajal Sinha –
a school friend of mine from a very long time ago.
I was at Suryajal VidyaPeeth (SVP) for around seven years. But they were the most important ones, being the formative years of my life and all.
Actually, it was there that I had started
my schooling – kindergarten to grade 5. Normally, a child does not remember
much from those early years, as newer memories are formed.
But somehow, SVP was very special to me and I seem to have quite a rare
collection of memories from those days. But the conversation with Kajal from
SVP, kind of left me gagging. It went like this:
KS: Hi Ruchira, how you doing?
R: Heyyyy!!! I’m doing good thanks, you?
KS: Ok…not too well today
R: Err..oh dear. Why? Whats wrong?
KS: Have been running a slight fever…so I’m
a bit low on energy
I’m confused. The woman messages me after
nearly 18+ years and what I expect are updates on stuff she’s been up to in that
time. But the first thing she says after ‘hello’, is that she’s feeling unwell –
I feel a little zoned out. I don’t know what to say. I stick with the
conventional words of empathy and support that one offers a friend stricken
with the flu.
R: Awwwwwwwwww
KS: Yeah…it’s been a few days now…
R: (severely searching for words now)
Awwwwwww
KS: (Silence)
R: (Trying to sound less foolish) Don’t worry you’ll be fine in a
few days. Make sure you take your medicines
on time.
KS: Thanks. The fever made me think of you actually. That’s why I
messaged you.
Errrrrrr. What? Now I’m thoroughly
flummoxed. People get sick and think of me? That is not a good sign, Ruchi,
I tell myself.
R: U thought of me? How come?
KS: When we were in school, I remember a day when I was running a
very high fever
R: Oh is it? (waits for more info)
KS: Yes, I remember because you gave me your sweater to wear that
day
R: Really? Wow I have no recollection of that
KS: I remember clearly. It was a pink sweater. And it meant a lot to
me that day, because I was really cold
R: (Embarassed) LOL You have such a vivid memory – I don’t remember
any of this!
KS: That was very sweet of you. I haven’t forgotten it. Thanks a
lot.
So, here was a woman thanking me for a
simple gesture I made 18+ years ago. I had nothing to give her back, as far as
memories go. I felt stupid.
R: Aww gee. Please yaar! No thanks and
all! Happened so long ago. J
KS: I was burning up – don’t you remember? Don’t
you remember your pink sweater?
R: uh..no…you have a freakishly good
memory. Though I’m sure it was pink! I love pink!
KS: Haha..yeah me too…
R: (tries to get back in the game) Oh wait
wait! I remember something too!
KS: Yeah? What?
R: You were very fair complexioned as a young girl and you had the
chubbiest cheeks I had ever seen on any one. (She guffaws.) I mean, I used to
look at you and think…wow! Would be cool to have cheeks like that! I also
remember you used to have your hair in pigtails and red ribbons – it was quite the
fashion then – hehe.
KS: He he yes yes, but I liked your hair more
R: You remember my hairstyle?
KS: Yep. Shoulder length hair, fairly straight – you used to keep
your hair shorter than the rest.
R: You remember my hairstyle??
KS: Yes I do! It used to really suit you! Very few people could pull
off a hairstyle like that with confidence and poise. Hm.
R: Erm….
KS: Hehehehe… Also, you used to do charity work with Mother Teresa’s
Missionaries of Charity, no?
R: Ok Kajal – this is freaky! Is there anything you don’t remember?
KS: (smiles) I do remember that you were very kind, helpful and
generous as a child. It was a pleasure knowing u so early on in life.
We chatted for about five minutes after
that, but the sweater conversation left me with a warm fuzzy feeling inside. One act of
helpfulness by a child, had made an indelible impression on another. Because of it, in some small way, we were both better people. Something
like that influences a life – even as one progresses from childhood to adulthood,
possibly even old age.
The pink color of my sweater was etched in
Kajal’s mind, because as a child, I chose to give it to her when she needed it.
Thank you Kajal - your graciousness and grateful
warmth (not easily seen in an adult) won’t let me forget the sweater either. After
18+ years, we’ve come full circle.
~Shreyasi Majumdar

















